Written by Marygrace Taylor
If sex during or after menopause is feeling fraught instead of fun, you’re not alone. Experts estimate that up to 30% of postmenopausal women may experience painful intercourse.1 Countless more struggle with other side effects, including vaginal dryness and decreased sex drive, both leading up to menopause and afterwards. All of this can make sex a lot less appealing.
There are plenty of reasons why these side effects occur—and many point to shifts or drops in hormones. The female body’s production of the hormone estrogen plummets in the years leading up to menopause. When your body is low on estrogen, becoming aroused can take longer and orgasms may weaken—if they happen at all. Low estrogen levels can also cause vaginal tissues to become drier and less stretchy, which can make sex painful. These symptoms can make you less interested in sex and make arousal even more challenging, creating a sort of negative feedback loop.2
This whole experience may sound bleak, especially if you’re not interested in resorting to prescription treatments like hormone replacement therapy. Thankfully, there’s hope for those who would rather to stick to a more natural approach.
Menopause Symptoms Can Impact Female Sensitivity and Sex Drive
You know when sex just doesn’t feel like it used to. Still, it can sometimes be hard to pinpoint just what the problem is.
Let’s start by taking a look at some of the most common peri- and postmenopausal symptoms. You might have written some of these off as normal or unavoidable—but in fact, these symptoms may have an impact on your overall sensitivity, libido and sexual function:3
- Vaginal dryness, itching, or discomfort
- Painful sex
- More time needed to get aroused
- Absence of orgasm
- Night sweats and disrupted sleep, which can lead to lower energy levels and sex drive4
Since one symptom can often be tied to another when it comes to decreased sexual function, it’s important to talk to your doctor about what you’re experiencing. They may be able to offer advice or suggest specific treatments to fit your individual needs.
Natural Remedies to Boost Your Sexual Function
Doctor aside, some simple, science-backed strategies and lifestyle changes can go a long way in helping to restore your sexual function—and making you feel more like yourself again.
Use Food to Help Manage Your Hormonal Imbalance
A healthy diet can help improve the hormone-fueled symptoms that negatively impact your sex life during menopause. Incorporating these three changes may help make a difference:
- Up Your Veggie Intake: Vegetables—particularly leafy greens, beets, and radishes5—tend to be rich in naturally occurring nitrates. These compounds have been shown to relax blood vessels and improve blood flow throughout the body, including to vaginal tissues.6 A decrease of blood flow to the genitals can commonly be experienced during peri and postmenopause and is often linked to the hormonal changes occurring during this time. Taking steps to increase blood flow to the genitals—by eating the right types of food, for example—can help increase vaginal lubrication during arousal and even make you more sensitive to physical stimulation.7 Yet another reason to fill your plate with vegetables: this boost in blood flow can give you more energy8 to engage in sex (not to mention day-to-day activities like exercise).
- To Soy, or Not to Soy?: Soy-containing foods like tofu and tempeh contain phytoestrogens, or estrogen-like compounds that some studies suggest may help improve hormone imbalances as well as alleviate a few symptoms experienced by perimenopausal and postmenopausal women.9 Not a fan of tofu? Phytoestrogens are also found in foods like chickpeas, peanuts, grapes, berries, and black and green tea.10 But, while phytoestrogens can provide some benefits to hormonal health, they unfortunately don’t come without risks. Even though phytoestrogens are naturally occurring and are often thought of as a safer alternative to synthetic or bioidentical hormones, they do work in the same way in the body and may influence your body’s hormonal balance. Speak with your doctor first before increasing your phytoestrogen intake so you can be aware of the risks and discuss any concerns.11
- Help Yourself to Healthy Fats: Omega-3 fatty acids, found in foods like fatty fish and in certain dietary supplements, have been shown to help alleviate night sweats12 and ease some feelings of depressed moods.13 This might not give your sex life a direct jolt, but better sleep and experiencing fewer disruptive symptoms throughout the day may give you more energy and improve your mood overall. And sex sounds a whole lot more appealing when you’re feeling your best!
Get Regular Exercise (and Don’t Forget About Your Pelvic Floor)
That feel-good feeling you get after a workout comes from naturally occurring endorphins, which help to boost your mood and energy levels—and may peak your libido as a result. But don’t just limit yourself to traditional forms of exercise. Pelvic floor exercises can go a long way towards increasing blood flow to your vaginal tissues before, during and after menopause, and can help strengthen the muscles involved in achieving orgasm.14
Keep Having Sex
It might sound counterintuitive, but having sex more often can actually make the experience feel better, which may make you want to engage in sexual activity more often. Regular sex promotes healthy blood flow to vaginal tissues and helps to keep vaginal muscles stretchy and toned.15
If getting in the mood during or after menopause takes longer than it used to, try dedicating more time to foreplay. Be open with your partner and consider suggesting more direct stimulation of your clitoris to get your blood—and natural lubrication—flowing.16 Try adding a toy into the mix. A recent study showed that after three months of regularly using a vibrator, two-thirds of postmenopausal women experienced less dryness, more orgasms, and more vaginal sensation.17
Try a Dietary Supplement or Natural Solution
Choosing the right vitamins, supplements, or natural alternatives can go a long way towards promoting comfort and increasing your sexual sensitivity during intimate moments. These types of solutions can help make your sex life more satisfying both during and after menopause. Here are some options to consider:
- Natural Options for Dealing with Menopause Vaginal Dryness: Natural lubricants can be an effective option for providing much-needed moisture to dry or tight vaginal tissues. One of the more popular natural lubricants is virgin coconut oil, which has been clinically studied and shown to be both safe and effective as a moisturizer.18 Women may prefer to use unrefined, virgin coconut oil because it’s the least processed. Coconut oil also tastes and smells great, while providing noticeable moisture and lubrication. Other natural oils that can provide lubrication include olive oil, avocado oil and jojoba oil. It’s important not to use any of these options alongside the use of condoms, however, as they may weaken the integrity. Aloe Vera can serve as an effective alternative to oils if you are using condoms and still looking for a natural lubrication option.19 It’s always best to consult with your doctor before trying any of these suggestions, in the event you have questions about how to use them or if you have concerns about allergies.
Natural oils may help to provide vaginal lubrication in the short term. But if you’re menopausal and experiencing vaginal atrophy, along with its associated symptoms of dryness, irritation, burning and painful sex, a longer lasting vaginal moisturizer that uses natural ingredients may be a better option for you. Hyaluronic acid, which already occurs naturally in the body, can be effective for addressing vaginal dryness in the short- and long-term. This natural ingredient is considered to be a super-moisturizer, as it can retain up to 1000x its weight in moisture.
Learn more about Revaree®, which harnesses the natural power of hyaluronic acid to deliver hydration to dry, sensitive vaginal tissues.
Vitamins to Increase Libido and Female Sensitivity: There are a handful of naturally occurring herbs and supplements that have been shown to increase libido in women. However, in-depth scientific studies around these options have not yet been completed and more research is needed to determine their true benefits. Several of the most common herbs linked to enhancing sex drive in women include:
- Ginkgo biloba, which in some studies has demonstrated a positive impact on blood flow, increasing arousal and relaxing smooth muscles, like those in the vagina
- Maca, which has been historically used to help enhance fertility and sexual desire in both men and women
- Saffron, which may help to improve sexual arousal in women, along with improving lubrication and decreasing pain.20
Read about Ristela®, which utilizes a clinically studied blend of powerful antioxidants and amino acids to safely boost blood flow to the vagina to increase physical arousal and orgasm in women.*
During and after menopause, sex shouldn’t hurt—or feel like a chore. Healthy habits and supplements might not solve the problem overnight. But with a little bit of time and commitment, they might be all you need to get excited about intimacy again.
- https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/omega-3-fish-oil-for-brain-health. Healthline 2017